Lighting Ways to Brighter Days

New Year and Time to Tease Out the Toxic!


Well, you know they say, “birds of a feather flock together,” but what happens when some of the birds become frazzled, and they just don’t fit into your flock anymore?  They aren’t aligned with your purpose anymore, and they just become downright bothersome.  (And nobody wants to be around annoying, bothersome birds!)  One of the buzz words I hear, frequently, these days, is “toxic.”  There is toxic air, toxic water, toxic positivity as well as songs that are written about being toxic! The “toxic,” I’ll focus on, presently, is toxic relationships.  We’ve all had them.  Some of us still have them.  You know the ones:  The phone rings, and the name lights up, and you get a sinking feeling inside.  Your text message pings, and you see the name of the sender, and you think, “I just can’t right now.” Your doorbell rings, and you peek out to see someone who’s in the, “toxic,” category.  You quietly, close the blind, and tip back to your comfortable chair toward the back of the house, and breathe a sigh of relief when they have left.  Toxic relationships can be simply annoying, or they can become detrimental to your emotional health and overall well-being.  Neither is okay.  Neither is desirable.  It is important, in this time, to know when we have become participants in toxic relationships, so we can do our best to put our affairs in better order and tease out the toxic!  When we tease out the toxic elements in our lives, we filter out so much negativity that can seriously damage our emotional, physical, and spiritual wellbeing.  Birds of a feather might flock together, but sometimes, we simply get hung up with those who really are not a part of the purpose that has been set and designed for our lives.  It is important that we are able to recognize what needs to be teased out or left behind, in order for us to be able to move forward in our lives in a positive, healthy, and stable direction.  While it might be hard to actually call a relationship, “toxic,” and acknowledge it as being such, sometimes, it is simply a necessary part of life that helps to keep us safe and protect our emotional wellbeing.  Soooooo, how do we move forward and shake off those toxic relationships that are pulling us down?  Well, we can start by dragging that thing out and staring it square in the face.  We can acknowledge it for what it really is, and we can decide to either drop it cold turkey, or we can devise a plan to gradually see our way out and move away from relationships and people who bring negativity and toxicity into our lives.  Unfortunately, as toxic as a relationship might be, it can still, sometimes, feel comfortable and normal, and that is the danger of remaining in a relationship that is not healthy for you; one which might cause you damage that can’t easily be repaired.  Recognize what you need to rid yourself of, and come up with a workable plan, and make it happen! Teasing  out the toxic, will clear out some cobwebs and brighten even some of the dustiest, dimmest corners, and what better time to tease out the toxic than the beginning of this brand new year, 2024!